Proposition: The Bible has an ideal for the family that is practical and attainable.
I. CARE FOR EACH OTHER, 5:25-29; 6:1-3
A. Husband and wife relationshipII. SHARE WITH EACH OTHER, 5:29-31
B. Parent and child relationship
A. A mergingIII. BEAR WITH EACH OTHER, 5:21, 22; 6:4
B. A miracle
C. A mystery
A. Cooperative submissionConclusion: God cares what happens to our earthly families, but whatever the situation with your earthly family, you have a heavenly family in the church.
B. Mutual submission
C. Willing submission
In Dick Browne's "Hi and Lois" comic strip, the next-door
neighbor says, "Irma and I have been fighting a lot lately. I've
been thinking about looking into a 'no fault' divorce." Hi answers,
"What this country needs is more 'no fault' marriages."
James Thurber wrote: "Marriage is so much more interesting
than divorce. It's the only time an immovable object successfully
meets an irresistible force!"
A wife went to the police station with, her next-door
neighbor to report that her husband was missing. The policeman asked
for a description. She said, "He's 45 years old, 6 foot 3, has blue
eyes, blond hair, an athletic build, weighs 185 pounds, is soft-spoken,
and is good to the children." The next-door neighbor protested, "Your
husband is 5 foot 3, chubby, bald, has a big mouth, and is mean to your
children." The wife replied, "Who wants him back?"
David Reuben wrote: "A marriage is like a long trip
in a rowboat. If one passenger starts to rock the boat, the other
one has to steady it. Otherwise, they will both go to the bottom
together." How well that illustrates the mutual responsibilities
and mutual concerns that must be a part of marriage.
The New York Times reported on a Wisconsin study
of divorced couples with children. It revealed that 52% of them were
back in court within two years of their divorce. The majority of
them reappeared in court from two to ten times; and one father had a total
of seventy-six court appearances in two years!
A five-year study by Mavis Hetherington of the University
of Virginia concluded that the worst victims of divorces are small boys.
And regardless of gender, children of divorced parents cause a disproportionate
share of problems in schools. They do worse academically. If
present trends continue, 48% of the children attending school in the 1990's
will be from broken homes. Problems are ahead. They are problems
that can be prevented far easier than they can be solved.
Redbook magazine recently reported that money and in-laws are no longer the major causes of divorce, though they once were. A new study shows that lack of communication, changing goals, and sexual problems are the major causes of marital difficulties. Whatever the causes, we know the cure. If we care for one another and share with one another and bear with one another, we can spare ourselves many heartaches and spare others much pain.